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Written by Chrissy S.
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Monday, 09 October 2006 |
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Candid Communication Important to Sexual Health Why do several individuals seem to get everything they want in the way of romantic intimacy, while others cannot even get what they need? Being sexually successful is about your appearance, or how old you are, or how much you make. It is more about your attitude, manners, and social skills. Service Ad: Motivation Articles
Here are 10 common tips on negotiating your way to great romantic intimacy.
1. First impressions count. Look and act your finest. This would not be the time to beat yourself up about your imperfections or to take out your frustrations with the world. This is the time to let a companion know that you are ready and capable of haveing a fun time.
2. Pay attention. Take a few minutes to get to know your future partner. Get a idea of the kind of individual she or he is shy or aggressive, extroverted, or reserved? Then fine-tune your approach to him or her. Individuals are not interchangeable; so do not treat everyone exactly the same.
3. Be complimentary. Find something about the individual that you like. Does he or she have nice hair or pretty eyes, a great figure or attractive hands? Are they spiritual, intelligent, or funny? Learning to admire individuals qualities, and letting them know you do, is the key to success in your romantic endeavors.
4. Leave the negativity at home. The kiss of death is when you bring tired old baggage into play. Romantic intimacy is about pleasure, fun, relaxation, healing, and uniting with another individual. Do not talk about your previous bad relationships or gas prices, bar fights or work frustrations. Focus on the good times you can have with this individual, and not the bad times you have had with others.
5. Flirt. A entire book could be written on the matter, but surely to say that flirting puts individuals in a commendable mood and warms them up sexually. Flirting includes paying compliments, making teasing comments or light-hearted jokes, and talking about fantasies or things you would like to do together. It does not include demeaning jokes, insults, or obscene language.
6. Ask for what you want. Asking does not promise you will get it, but it certainly improves your chances. Show or tell your lover what things excite you the most. If your partner needs some convincing, take baby steps towards your ultimate goal.
7. Control yourself. The difference between immature romantic intimacy and adult romantic intimacy is that adults learn to control their impulses. However, way too many adults keep acting sex-crazed and immature long after it is acceptable or attractive. Sexual excitement is no reason for trying to pressure someone to do things that make him or her feel awkward. When your partner says "no" to something, accept the limit and gracefully go on to something else. Rude or abusive behavior are not appreciated or tolerated.
8. Don't confuse fantasy with reality. You meet an unbelievably desired person and, in your mind, you just know you would have mind-blowing romantic intimacy together. You are lucky if you do. Do not ruin your chances with them by assuming that your fantasy obligates them to fulfill it. Instead, feel them out are they having the same vibes? Does your idea turn them on as much as it does you? Talk it over before trying to talk them into it.
9. Set limits on both sides and stick to them. Talk clearly about what you like and dislike, what words or fantasies are exciting and which ones are not. Keep in mind that what is hot to one individual could be like a cold shower to another. If your partner lets you know that he or she does not wish to act out a particular fantasy or engage in a particular act, do not try to pressure them into it. You can always find someone else who is more compatible with you and will be delighted to indulge you.
10. Be polite. Some of the sexiest words in any language are "Please," "thank you," and "you're welcome." No matter how raunchy the situation, politeness shows that you respect your companions and value their company, and it makes you look classy. Your positive energy will make them trust you more and flourish more open to trying new and exciting things with you. |
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Last Updated ( Monday, 09 October 2006 )
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